Between You and Me

Many nights, when I fall into bed, I slide my hand under the pillow. There it is...our journal. It's my turn to write, then hide it under her pillow.

Several years ago, my oldest daughter and I started a mom/daughter journal that I know will be a huge part of our communication in the next few years. . She turned 13 yesterday. I'm excited, but terrified!

Because I have two daughters, I now have two journals. I can hardly keep up, but I love it! With 9-year-old Crissy, the journal holds many codes and a line that continues from page to page. The first journal I had with Cris was guarded under lock and key. She finally gave up and bought another one because I kept losing the key! (So much for winning "Mom of the Year!")

It's easier for me to write things than say them aloud. It must be for my girls, too, because I read things they would never speak. Journaling gives us freedom with each other even though the words weren't spoken. Bonding-that's what is going on in our journals. Sometimes they tell me their secrets, pouring peace over my mom-heart!

The writing is priceless. Sometimes I hear about a boy she "licks" (likes!). One day, they will enjoy reading this piece of our history. Not only are we working on our relationship, but spelling and grammar have a chance to improve as well. Every time I write, they see paragraphs, end-punctuation and most importantly...they see my heart. I write prayers for them, share Scriptures I love, encourage them and sometimes tell them something that's bugging me. They do the same.

Is this only for moms and daughters?

My sister, Laurie, and husband, Charles, started a journal with their son. When writing his thoughts, he felt the freedom to ask questions he would never have said aloud. It was a safe way for him to ask questions while giving Laurie and Charles time to get on the same page about the answers.

Does it really work?

While Laurie and I searched the sale bin for a journal for her daughter, two college girls started digging through sale items, too. Conversation started and we told them about the journal idea. One girl said, "That is a great idea. I think it would have been better between my mom and me if she had done that. It's easier for me to write stuff instead of having to come out and say it." The other girl said, "I'm gonna remember that for when I have kids. That's a great idea!"

A few dollars for a journal plus time spent writing a few lines is a small investment with amazing benefits! What a great opportunity to pass along what you want to share with your kids without feeling like you're preaching.

I love Ephesians 5:15-16: "Be very careful, then how you live - not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil." Make the most of this chance to grow the foundation of your relationship. Show them how much you care and have lots of fun in the process!

Enjoying the journey through journaling!

Sharon

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